Being single on Valentine’s Day can feel lonely... whether you’ve been single for a few days, weeks, months or years it’s easy to get a little down on this so called “Hallmark” holiday. If you are currently single it may feel depressing to go to work and see others receiving gifts. You may wander through a grocery store and find the overwhelming amount of cheezy decor, flowers and chocolate on display ammunition for feeling even worse.
I’ve been there a few times myself in various forms from just dating someone to the aftermath of destruction from a serious relationship breaking and I’m here to tell you that Valentine’s Day single can downright just suck…. The good news is, it doesn’t have to. You can take control today to make it a holiday about love…self love instead.
Get Dressed to the Nines
There is something about putting on a good outfit that fits and flatters you that makes you instantly feel like you are a superstar. Today is NOT the day to wear an old worn t-shirt and sweatpants. I repeat, no sweatpants. Put on your favorite outfit, do your makeup and hair and leave the house to go to work feeling your best. You don’t have to go out in head to toe pink or red but instead wear what you feel like you look the best in.
Plan Your Evening
Create plans for your evening whether it’s a coffee date with a friend, a Galentine’s Day gathering or to go home and read a book. Make plans for yourself. I would recommend not having dinner alone though. It can be awkward having dinner on a date night stuck watching couples walk by smothering each other with affection (can we say gag me?!) If you choose an evening at home schedule to have dinner delivered or order take out from your favorite restaurant and DO NOT forget dessert. Count your calories tomorrow. Today is about self love and building your confidence so you can love others better. Indulge a little for yourself and appreciate each bite.
Silence Your Phone and Stay Off Social Media
Whether you’re single or not, alone or with someone just turn your phone to silence or even off tonight. It’s been proven that scrolling endlessly through picture perfect social media accounts can bring your mood down. Instead fill your time with something that creates value in your life. Go on a walk in a beautiful area of your city or get a workout in. Grab a book or rent a movie you’ve wanted to see a while. The key is to minimize an opportunity to compare your single life to all of the perfect couples out there.
Don’t Get Drunk
While many of us love a good glass of wine today is not the day to pound shots of tequila or whiskey. I’d go even further to say you may not want to drink at all. Alcohol walks a fine line for being emotional. Since it also lowers inhibitions you may find yourself dialing exes in a desperate attempt to reconcile. Again, not the time nor date for these antics. You’ll only feel worse the following morning both physically and emotionally. Instead, relax with yoga, mediation or a long bath. Have a mocktail like ginger beer or if you want wine there are dealcoholized versions that give you a great flavor and food pairing without the effects. Stay in control of yourself so you can hold your head up high throughout the evening and into the next day.
Most of all remember you are worth more than today. You are loved and cared for by someone beyond what’s here on Earth. You are an amazing person and it’s okay to be alone. So oftentimes it feels like when we are at a low point in life it’s like being in a valley where you can’t see hope for the future. When we are at high points in our life it’s easy to count our blessings and view life in rose colored glasses. No matter what season your life holds, today is still a gift. Seasons in life are temporary and one day things will be different. I hope each and every one of you have a wonderful evening and cherish today.