With Valentine’s Day being tomorrow and many couples celebrating over the weekend it’s never too last minute to plan a fuss free activity or pick up a small meaningful gift. Gift giving is one of my love languages and for those who are not gift givers it can be challenging to find the right gift for a loved one. The thing is, most people who love gifts (whether receiving or giving) do not necessarily need something over the top or expensive. Instead, they are looking for something that matches their personality and has meaning.
I remember being introduced to the book The Five Love Languages and the person who introduced it also shared the same love language. She was practical and loved gifts that made her life easier. She told me her husband bought her a new vacuum and it made her life so much easier. Now, to some this seems like a gift without meaning. But to her, it was heaven! She was able to make her daily housekeeping easier and that was everything to her! She was a practical woman who loved to simplify her life and an unexpected vacuum was the perfect gift for her.
If you haven’t read The Five Love Languages it’s a expert recommended book for all couples. Basically, it states we all have a love bank and different people have different ways of receiving and giving love. The five love languages include: Physical Touch, Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, and Gift Giving. Today I’m going to break down different ways you can show your love for anyone in your life by speaking their love language and gifts appropriate for each:
Those who love physical touch crave to affection. You can usually spot this love language if they are huggers. For those who are like myself (more of a touch-me-not) huggers can feel like your space is being invaded. As I’ve grown older I’ve made it a point to greet people who I’ve noted as a hugger with a hug upon seeing them. In relationships, physical touchers enjoy cuddling, massages, kissing and in general just like being physically next to you. Try getting a bottle of massage oil (pick up this one at a local drug store) and plan an evening of candlelit romance. Another fun idea is to this amazing bean bag chair designed for couples!
People who speak the Quality Time language want to not only spend time with you, but they want to bond with you. Simply being in the room next to them is not enough. They are looking for you to interact, have conversation and develop together. If you aren’t sure where to begin on this one, start out with planning an activity together like going to an Escape Room or workout class. You can also buy a book like this one where the two of you fill it out together. Try a cooking class or even plan to cook a meal together. This is a perfect cutting board where you can personalize it for the two of you! Another fun gift if you’re cooking together includes his/her aprons. Think about gifting a small memento to add to an experience so your partner will be able to think of your time together when looking at your gift.
Words of Affirmation
Outside of gifts, this is my most dominate love language. Being a words of affirmation person I am not looking for validation but more so knowing where I stand with someone. Words of affirmation people don’t care for just a compliment, but understanding the meaning behind a given compliment. When I started thinking about ways someone could give words of affirmation immediately I was drawn to magnetic letters on a refrigerator for random messages or this message board! Another option is to write a love letter for them about the things that you love about them and get it framed. Don’t worry if you don’t have good penmanship you can print it out on pretty stationary and then pop it into a frame. Surprise your partner by sitting it out in the morning or when they come home in a place they will see it everyday as a reminder of your affection. The important thing to remember is to have the words in your tone. Don’t just go out and buy something pre-made like a card. Take times and write out things in your words and let your partner know just how important this person means to you.
Acts of Service
Acts of service is when you do something for another person to show how much you love them. Acts of service lovers will oftentimes take care of things for you like pick up dry cleaning, doing a household chore you dislike and building something for you. As I reflect upon this love language I think one of the sweetest things you can do for someone is to make them breakfast in bed or coffee. Try serving them on a pretty tray their favorite breakfast or buying a sweet coffee mug and making them a cup first thing in the morning. They are simple gestures, but mean so much. Another act of service idea is to make them dinner instead of taking them out or even clean the house up if that’s something needed.
Gifts givers love to find things that evoke special memories. They also love personalized things so think about getting them a monogrammed gift. I love this decantur and low ball glass set and you can add this amazing little mongrammed mini bar set. This sweet little candle has a place for you to map out a special location and date for a sweet reminder of your anniversary or other special occasion. Another really fun idea is to get them something they will use in an activity they do every day but have it monogrammed like this yoga mat. I received one myself for Christmas and I love it so much!