Three Heel Clicks

Travel

Thoughts on Vulnerability

Fashion, Inspiration, Lifestyle, Petite Style, Style, TravelCrystal JacksonComment
Three Heel Clicks - Thoughts on Vulnerability (7).jpg

“Vulnerability is the courage to show up when you don’t know the outcome.” - Brene Brown

Three Heel Clicks - Thoughts on Vulnerability (3).jpg

Shop Rainbow Maxi Dresses

Vulnerability is a concept I’ve avoided for 33 years. Yes, completely avoided. I’m sitting here listening to Brene Brown’s feature on Netflix and it is inspiring. If you didn’t know Brene Brown is a specialist in studying the concept of courage and vulnerability over the past twenty years. What she found through extensive research and data is that you can’t have courage without vulnerability. I was raised as a child who gathers strength from God and Jesus. Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” I started thinking about how vulnerability plays into drawing from Christ's strength instead of my own strength.

Three Heel Clicks - Thoughts on Vulnerability (2).jpg

In the past, I’ve made sure to skip over every weakness and amplify my own strengths. In doing so, people found often that they couldn’t relate to me. How heartbreaking for someone who puts forth the effort to being their best. Do I fail? Often. Do I lose? Yes. But do I dwell there? No. I always found it inefficient and will hinder meeting my own goals. But does that mean I’m not vulnerable? Absolutely not.

Vulnerability is defined “the quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.” (according to Dictionary.com). Being exposed….well, hmmm. What exactly does that mean? I think vulnerability is admitting to yourself and others where you have gaps. It doesn’t mean those gaps won’t be filled in your life, it just means you are willing to recognize shortcomings. I think the more aware we are of ourselves the more that we can experience true greatness in our lives.

What are your thoughts on vulnerability? I’d love to hear about them! Leave a comment below!

If you like this post, then check these out:

Developing Your Morning Habit Routine

Fashion, DIY, How To, Healthy, Petite Style, Lifestyle, Inspiration, Style, TravelCrystal JacksonComment
Developing Your Morning Habit Routine (6).jpg

Lately, I’ve begin growing into the discipline of developing habit routines. After reading a few incredibly inspiring books like Thrive and The Power of Habit I’ve learned to begin my day the way I need to so that I set up a foundation to be kinder, gentler, more compassionate and most of all loving. There was a time in my corporate work career where I moved from one activity to the next without giving any thought to how it might affect my body, mind and soul. After a decade of living like that and burning the entire candle not just both ends, I’ve made a conscious and deliberate effort to change a life of chaos and develop a life of purpose, discernment and intention.

While hardwork and diligence is a discipline, I was far exceeding discipline and I turned it to a full obsession. I was a corporate supervisor’s dream… always ready to tackle more. Always willing to say yes. Never realizing that the more times I said, “yes” without hesitation or intention I was slowly become less of me and more of something I did not want to become. Late nights at work spilled over to not being able to sit still and enjoy time at home. I literally lived in chaos for a decade. Although I appreciate every single experience from that time, I now realize I can achieve a better life by implementing discipline into my morning habit routines that will allow my mind to have the space it needs to flourish. At the beginning of May I set out on a new journey. A journey to redefine my purpose - you can read more about that in last week’s post.

Developing Your Morning Habit Routine (8).jpg

After exptensive research and trial and error I begin to develop new routines. I start my day with a glass of water beside my bedstand. Before I even move or stretch I get this first glass down to fill my body with the hydration it needs. I spend a few minutes making my bed and stretching. I slowly let my body come alive instead of being my previous pop tart of a self. Then, I read a small meditation or excerpt from something inspiration and journal about thoughts. From there, I make a list of three categories:

  • One Big Thing I’m Going to Accomplish Today

  • Three Important Tasks

  • A Timeline for My Day

I begin with the end in mind which is how I am going to accomplish one big thing. That way if nothing else goes my way, then at least I knocked off one thing. Sometimes the one big thing is a long workout. Sometimes it’s a project or chore. My one big thing has become the center of the day. From there I list three other important tasks - pick up dry cleaning, coffee with a friend, or maybe write a blog post. I base my entire day’s timeline on these four items. I allow plenty of time to accomplish things and keep my schedule simple. I’ll be sharing my daily schedule with you guys over the course of the next few weeks on Instagram Stories.

If I could rewind the clock I would have been kinder to my twenty something self. I would have taken more breaks. Turned off work and slept more. Turned off the phone, the emails and late texts for work. I became consumed with being a slave to deadlines and projects. I literally could not go on a Sunday drive through the city without thinking as I passed by an industrial building that maybe I could help them become a client. While I do believe that many work inspirations can bloom out of the office, I was not being inspired… I had conditioned my mind to think only about work… about the next meeting, the next sale, the next goal I needed to reach to support my family financially. Now my days are different. My morning routine sets me up with intention. I realize what’s important and urgent and what can wait. At the conclusion of my day I reflect upon the things I put on plate and decide if it’s too much or too little. Whatever your current routine is I challenge you to start with just five minutes. Take five minutes to think about your purpose in life. Build your day around that purpose.

How do you prepare for your day? Anything especially helpful? Leave a comment or send me a tweet!

All photographs courtesy of the talented Andrew Sherard.

If you like this post, then check these out:

How to Wear the Hottest Hair Accessories

Fashion, DIY, How To, Houston, Lifestyle, Petite Style, Photography, Style, TravelCrystal JacksonComment
Three Heel Clicks - How to Wear Spring's Hottest Hair Accessories (17).jpg

Shop Green Dresses

One of the best parts of being a fashion and lifestyle blogger for my job is getting to share new ideas with you guys! I’ve always been drawn to a feminine, modern and timeless style but I like adding touches of whimsy from older eras like hats, silk scarves, vintage bags and hairpieces. Mixing old ideas with new pieces is one of the most fun parts for putting together a new fresh look.

Three Heel Clicks - How to Wear Spring's Hottest Hair Accessories (19).jpg

You may notice that lately I’ve been playing more and more with scarves. You can see an entire group of posts where I use scarves in different ways on the blog and on Pinterest. Today I’m sharing how to incorporate some of the best accessories for your hair right now! For today’s look I added a simple floral crown to tie in the blush rose printed dress and mules. I love how this changes the entire dress taking it from an otherwise conservative approach to something more whimsical.

Shop Hair Accessories

Adding a new style or accessory in your wardrobe can be a little bit of an adjustment. I remember when I first started adding hats into every day outfits I felt like they were a little over the top. But as I wore them more and more, I began to grow comfortable with this new apparatus being on my head. Same with headbands, hairclips and floral crowns. Sometimes, our minds and bodies have to adjust to something new. Think about it like a new piece of furniture you just purchased to fill an empty space. At first, the piece of furniture may feel like it’s taking up so much room in your home… but after a few weeks your mind adjusts and you can’t imagine the room looking any different!

Three Heel Clicks - How to Wear Spring's Hottest Hair Accessories (6).jpg

This can be said with anything you add in your life. Maybe it’s a new routine like I talked about last week on the blog. Maybe it’s a new decor item or fashion trend. Life is about experimenting and expressing creativity. When we do the same things over and over expecting different results it increases frustrations and feelings of inadequacy or low self worth. As humans, I believe we were meant to be exposed to new places, experiences and ways of self expression to deepen and define exactly who we are. I challenge you this Monday morning to try something you’ve always wanted to try. Maybe it’s a floral crown like I did here in today’s post. Or maybe you decide to take a walk to relax at the end of your day today. Maybe you finally pick up a pen and write words that have been lingering in your mind. Whatever you choose, challenge yourself to try something new. Write down how you felt afterwards. Reflect on your purpose and choices.

What is one thing you plan to add to your life today that’s new?

If you like this post, then check these out:

Spending Time on My Purpose

Fashion, Healthy, Inspiration, Petite Style, Lifestyle, Photography, Style, Travel, VintageCrystal JacksonComment
Three Heel Clicks - Spending Time on My Purpose (17).jpg

Shop the Look:

This is the first blog post I’ve written in weeks and feel like the break from everyday life was exactly what my spirit needed. At the beginning of this year I wrote the following on my mirror in pink lipstick:

  • Simplicity

  • Discernment

  • Purpose.

I’ve prayed over these three words and back in March I felt compelled to spend time alone addressing underlying parts of my soul. If you are one who has come to a point in life where you are seeking the deeper part of your soul, I can relate. I felt an overwhelming desire for discernment and purpose in my life. For months I battled with an internal struggle and what I would call spiritual warfare. My soul was literally battling with purpose on a daily basis. I decided at the beginning of April it was time to schedule free time (a contradiction in itself - haha!) to do some soul searching without the distractions of daily life.

Three Heel Clicks - Spending Time on My Purpose (19).jpg

And so I made plans. Although the course of the plan did end up shifting and maybe one day I’ll feel it is placed upon my heart to dive into deeper details, just know that I was meant to be in the very place in time this past month. Something happened one day when I was driving home. I had knots lining my shoulder blades for the past month. There were over 15 spots that ached daily. It was excruciating. I was told I had a build up of lactic acid.

Three Heel Clicks - Spending Time on My Purpose (15).jpg

As I am behind the steering wheel suddenly so many things in my heart, soul and mind came together and I realized I’ve been carrying around the weight of my past experiences. I also realized in this moment that every wrong choice, circumstance and event in my life led to the preparation of this moment where my purpose in life was revealed to me. Within 30 seconds my knots disappeared.

Three Heel Clicks - Spending Time on My Purpose (8).jpg

I awoke each morning this week with a peace I’ve never experienced before. The knots are still gone and my eyes shifted to focus on my purpose which has been known to me by Jesus. I prefer on this blog not to share religious or political viewpoints, but to make it a space to encourage you to live a better life.

Three Heel Clicks - Spending Time on My Purpose (21).jpg

What about you? Are you at a place in life where you are going through an unexplained internal struggle or spiritual warfare? Please share your experiences!

If you like this post, then check these out:

Trend to Watch: The Chambray Jumpsuit

Fashion, How To, Lifestyle, Petite Style, Travel, StyleCrystal JacksonComment
Three Heel Clicks - Trend to Watch - The Chambray Jumpsuit (1).jpg

Summer is creeping in and chambray is one of the best materials for this season! Since it’s light weight it’s so comfortable in the warmer months but still retains a more casual feel. This season, more than ever there are a ton of options for you to wear! I love my chambray jumpsuit that I picked up at Old Navy last year when I was in Maine. It’s proved to be a go to when I want to look casual but still chic. I swapped out the chambray belt for a linen one from this dress. That’s always an easy option for getting more wear out of a garment. Simply change out or remove the belt for a completely different look from the same jumpsuit.

Three Heel Clicks - Trend to Watch - The Chambray Jumpsuit (5).jpg

Shop Chambray Jumpsuits

Jumpsuits are practical. They have the ease of grabbing a single garment for your outfit but allow movement when you walk, sit or play on a Summer day. With a jumpsuit you don’t have to worry about flashing someone and it makes a great option when you pack for summer vacation. The combination of chambray and a jumpsuit…well that puts itself in a category all together.

Three Heel Clicks - Trend to Watch - The Chambray Jumpsuit (2).jpg

To style this jumpsuit, I added a pair of casual wedges I picked up last summer and are still in stock here. The feminine bow adds a girly touch and the fabric material makes it less likely to rub blisters. You can opt for a pair of closed toed espadrilles like I wore in a previous post here or a pair of flats if you prefer. Espadrilles are great for walking outdoors when you still want a little heel. Just be careful with water. The delicate jute can come undone if they get wet. I bought these from Amazon and I just added a list where you can find many of the garments and shoes I’ve bought on Amazon.

Three Heel Clicks - Trend to Watch - The Chambray Jumpsuit (4).jpg
Three Heel Clicks - Trend to Watch - The Chambray Jumpsuit (8).jpg
Three Heel Clicks - Trend to Watch - The Chambray Jumpsuit (11).jpg